Monday, January 14, 2008

Enough. No More.

She's a young mother. Her husband was away serving our country. Two of her children were asleep in her home, another was away for the night. A man knocked on her door. He told her that there was an emergency, something to do with his wife and children. She let him in. And he stabbed and raped and beat her and left her for dead. This happened a few miles away from my home.

She was a hiker, a poet, a lover of nature and of dogs. She went to the mountain on a clear winter day and was spotted walking with a fellow dog owner. Several days later, her dog turned up without her. A few days after that, we all knew why.

She was a soldier. She claimed that she was raped and in danger. She was pregnant. A few days ago, their burned bodies were found. An investigator can't get the image of the tiny, curled hand out of his mind.

Their father argued with their mother. He put them in his car. He drove to a bridge. When I think about the feeling of falling, the icy water, it is all I can do to keep from wailing over the deaths of these four children.

Enough. I have had enough.

I don't want to live in fear. I don't want to worry about my son playing in the front yard. I don't want to lock my car door as I drive down the street. I don't want places I consider sacred to become places where evil prowls among the trees.

A friend told me, "I'm getting a gun."

It's not about guns. A gun you keep hidden away in your home so your children won't hurt themselves with it is not going to stop evil from knocking at your door.

My brother said, "Get a security system."

It's not about security systems. All the alarms in the world won't stop evil from raping me as I go to my car while grocery shopping.

My inner voice says, "Find a goddess to invoke."

It's not about my Faith. Evil doesn't know the names of my goddess or god.

It's not about your Faith, either. I don't care to whom or what you pray in your darkest hours or if you pray at all. Neither does evil.

We must become more basic. We must become more HUMAN. We must stop thinking as if we are not newly born from Chaos. The Chaos has not been tamed by fire and clothing and roads and cities and satellites. If anything, it has been goaded to a frenzy by them.

We thought by naming it, we could make it go away. We thought that by acknowledging Truth, the Falsehood would fade. We thought that if we banished evil--to hell or to a prison cell--that it would stay put. We were wrong. It exists.

It stalks us. It feeds on our fear and ignorance and egoism.

It loves that that we don't know our neighbors, that we aren't squatting around communal fires in our caves. It loves that we don't pay attention to the signs of things to come, be they beach erosion or the nightly news. It loves that we pay only half a mind to the dictates of our Higher Powers. It loves that we hate.

It might be argued that for as long as there have been people, there has been fear. There has been murder and rape and ignorance and greed and all of the things in which evil wallows.

I won't deny this. I won't deny that death and injury and grief are parts of the human condition. But I REFUSE to run toward them. I refuse to turn a blind eye to these things as they sniff around my home...around your home. I refuse to shake a useless fist at the horrors that go on in this world or turn off my television or talk about something pleasant at the dinner table. No more.

No more.

The things I'm going to suggest we do might mean nothing to the Chaos. They will not end the capacity for evil to exist. They might not, in the end, protect us from anything. But they are ACTIONS. They are, at the very least, better than hiding under the bed and waiting for evil to find us there:

Speak to the Truth and listen to what it asks of you. Call it prayer. Call it meditation. Call it talking to yourself--the name of it doesn't matter. The doing of it does.

Educate yourself. Know your neighbor. Know your neighborhood, your city, your state. Pay attention to your body. Pay attention to the weather. Pay attention to the government. Connect with the ins and outs of our society.

Find safety (and comfort and joy) in numbers. Build relationships that would stave off Chaos if you lived in a cave. Know exactly who you would call if you were in danger, if you were lonely, if you wanted to take a walk in the woods. Reach out to people who are in danger, who are lonely. Make a community for yourself in which you are a loved, integral part.

If you see something that isn't right, don't close your eyes. Open the eyes of someone who can fix it. Look to see if you can fix it yourself.

Think about these women, these children. Think about the millions like them. Think about the slow, grinding Holocaust that our willful ignorance is causing. Ask yourself if you can allow yourself, your family, your friends, your neighbor, a complete stranger to be caught up in the devastation.

Then act.

13 comments:

Ms. Karen said...

Beautiful post, excellent advice.

I need to grow a spine so I can stop worrying about retaliation. I need to teach my children to do the same.

It's time we all looked at the bad behavior that much of society allows out of fear, call it bad and make it stop.

Somewhere along the line, we started listening to "experts" who believe there is no bad behavior, so there is nothing to correct.

That's when we threw common sense out the window and said, "oh, you're so right. I'll just let my kids do whatever so they'll grow up to be free spirits. Gosh, being a parent is easy when you let TV give all the instruction."

It's time we stop giving all those "experts" so much power and start listening to Common Sense.

Growth is fine, change is fine, but there is a line that should not be crossed. We've not only crossed it, we erased the stupid line...

Sorry... your post was so right on target, I didn't want it to lose momentum.

I'll shut up now.

Great post, Heather! Absolutely awesome!

Coleen Brooks said...

I've printed your post and will read it to my students tomorrow. Terrific, absolutely terrific. This should be shared, copied, sent, whatever everywhere. Heather, you are a marvelous writer. Those who read what you write can wrap themselves around your words and believe. I'm proud of you. It is a masterful piece that should be shared. And everything that you expressed is the truth.

Vanney said...

Truth is told through your blog. It's like everyone want's to do something, but yet, we don't. We have to stop living in fear!

Thank you for writing so beautifully Heather! I'm passing this on to just about everyone I know.

erina said...

It bothers me that people are always trying to find a reason for the violence, like why it happened. As if murdering or attacking someone can be justified!! People try to make a situation less personal, to assure themselves that it will never happen to them. Such as "oh she was probably cheating on him or something, and that's why she was attacked." As if that makes it more okay, and less likely for it to happen to you. There is no excuse for violence, it shouldn't be tolerated. Our society needs to stop being so complacent, as if violence is just another everyday thing we just accept as part of the nightly news.

groovyoldlady said...

"If you see something that isn't right, don't close your eyes. Open the eyes of someone who can fix it. Look to see if you can fix it yourself."

Amen to that. And may we find ourselves strong enough and brave enough and selfless enough to do so.

Selma said...

You are inspiring as always, Heather. I'm tired of hearing people complain that 'we live in a violent world' and just sitting back and accepting it. We're intelligent. sophisticated, civilised beings; surely we realise there is nothing acceptable about violence. I'm going to print out your post and put it above my desk so that every day I am inspired to make the world a better place. I vow not to be afraid to do the right thing anymore. If we all speak up together we can make a difference. Thank you, my dear, you are a wonderful person!

Andrea (AliMay) said...

You're right, evil is not a face, name, or even a profile. We have to be aware, be wise, and be vigilant in our surroundings. Listen to your gut instinct. It doesn't steer you wrong. I'm so tired of being scared. I'm tired of being polite because I don't want to offend someone. I'm tired of waiting for someone to bring change; it ain't gonna happen. I'm gonna channel my Michael Jackson and "look at the man (or in my case, woman) in the mirror" and make that change. I'm taking responsibility for those who have shirked theirs and I'm going to help raise this nation of children so that they will not suffer the fear that our generation suffers! Okay, stepping down from my soapbox. This issue is very close to my heart because I live it. Heather, thanks for writing about it!

Not Hannah said...

Thanks, lovies. It's so funny (or not) that it is embarrassing to do the right thing. We so desperately don't want to mess up that we just sit in stasis.

You make me feel hopeful. Each and every one of you.

leslie22 said...

This blog is so heartbreaking yet inspiring. I'm just so sad that there is so much evil in our world today and that so many people do chose to turn their back on it. I will doing my best to follow this advice.

Wayfarer Scientista said...

Here from Liv's blog (madness, madness I say). Gorgeous post. Spot on. Thanks for writing it!

Not Hannah said...

leslie22: You can do it!

ws: I just rediscovered M, MIS! She's got such a way, doesn't she? Thanks for the compliment--it means a lot.

jen said...

terrific post, it's part of our just posts this month. thank you.

Tracy said...

Fabulous post!